In India, marriage is often considered to be a connection not only between two individuals, but between two families, but a culturally, male family often take precedence over a woman.
Among the many changes that a woman has to deal with after marriage is her relationship with the father -in -law (miles), which is often tense, mainly because of the deep emotional dependence of her mother on her son.
In a viral post Reddit, a woman was looking for answers to social media users to understand why Indian women completely depend on their sons for their emotional needs.
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She shared that she noticed that mother -in -law, especially in India, treat her daughter as opponents rather than new members: “Any good thing in their son is because he is their son; any bad thing is that he got married with the girl and is a bad girl.”
When a woman shared a personal incident, she said she was traveling with her husband when her miles began to cry that her son wouldn’t take her nowhere, just went with his wife.
In the next incident, she said she had brewed her husband’s favorite meal, and when he shared it with her mother, she replied, “Remember I cooked so much for you when you were a child, but you’ve never been so excited?”
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The woman said she considered it strange, because as a daughter, when she tells her mother about her husband cares about her: “She becomes so happy.”
This is how Netizens reacted:
Men and women at Reddit immediately recognized the pattern of emotional dependence in miles and stated that it was common in women who were probably emotionally rejected by their spouses to later create a complete emotional dependence on their sons.
“This, because their emotional needs have never been filled with their husbands,” the social media user said.
In addition, they added: “They were/were often stuck in organized marriages with men who do not like them, listen to them or care for them. They raised their sons from children, took care of them, and now their sons who feel close.”
“It is expected that daughters, culturally, leave the family. Not sons. So they consider the dil a competition as their only source of emotional connection and fulfillment,” the user said. “It comes from a place of love and searching for a connection, but ends as an emotional incest and unhealthy addiction. They try to get from their sons what their spouses cannot or will not provide.”
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Nedizen shared that the emotional dependence of women on their sons was a psychological phenomenon called an emotional term. “The husband ignores his husband. If her husband has a son, he will try to form them into the husband they want, and therefore the term Sonsband in Western countries.”
Some men also shared some very interesting insight into the shivers with examples of their personal life.
“I absolutely guarantee the insensitive attitude of mothers who led to my divorce because of the constant interference of my in my marriage, and that’s not even the beginning. It’s been 10 years and a heartless approach to rejecting another girl when I like it, Bonkery,” the man said. “We have to interrupt the cycle.”
Another man noted that the only practical solution is to set fixed boundaries and move from home. “I did the same thing when I saw my older brother’s marriage destroyed over my mother’s exaggerated addiction to my brother. I didn’t want the situation in my life, and therefore I set clear boundaries before my marriage.
“It’s easy when you’re not married, so set the fixed boundaries before the marriage,” he added.
(Tagstotranslate) Emotional dependence
