In a recent online post, the young woman Dalit shared her way of dating and faced caste discrimination. Although she entered the dating world with hope and confidence, her experience revealed how deep the caste still affects relations in modern Indian society.
According to her contribution, Reddit seemed that men were initially interested and appreciated its intelligence and independence. But their behavior often changed the moment when they found her caste.
Many of them would stop contacting it or use excuses such as family pressure to end things. Even close relationships disintegrated as soon as things became serious.
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“It’s not you,” they would say. “But our families would never accept it.” Or worse: “You deserve someone who will not have to fight so hard,” Reddit wrote.
According to her, men often made comments as “you don’t look like Dalit”. They even treated her as a sexual object rather than a partner.
“I was told that Dalit women are” wild “,” great in bed “,” more open. “I have been fetishized several times before I can calculate. I am exciting for them, break from the norm. I am someone who slept with, not someone who marries,” she wrote.
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“I began to feel as if I were part of a private ritual that Savarna’s men walk through before settling with someone from my own caste. I’m a hidden phase that never talks about: a shame wrapped in lust,” she added.
In many cases, her achievements were rejected. People assumed that they only succeeded through caste reserves.
“I worked incredibly hard to be where I was. I studied, I built a career, supported myself. But it is not enough,” the poster wrote.
She also faced microagress, including offensive jokes and fine insults. Many men tried to guess her caste through questions about her surname or hometown. Once they find out the truth, they would withdraw interest.
Over time, this repeated rejection and the emotional burden caused that she felt that love was not intended for people like she. In the end she decided to stop walking completely.
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“Not because I stopped believing in love, but because I couldn’t constantly undergo this cycle of fetish, rejection, erase and pain. I couldn’t be something experiment, someone’s excitement, someone’s secrets,” the post said.
The woman ended her message with a remark about strength and solidarity. She encouraged other Dalitian women to weigh.
“We are not one -off. We are not a secret history in someone else’s life,” she concluded.
The reaction of social media
Reddit users reacted. Many of them shared similar stories.
“In a relationship with the most beautiful and beautiful girl for 10 years. And her parents disagree with the marriage. Because I belong to the caste that falls under Dalit,” one user wrote.
Another wrote: “I finally I am glad that someone said it. I am a man Dalit and I have some very similar experiences. I always thought it was a problem that only occurs for me.”
“We have been invisible throughout history, our work, ability and intellect is exploited,” he came from another.
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