A 22-year-old woman from Bengaluru shared on Reddit how members of society harassed her for simply having friends over on a Saturday night. Here is what happened.
She lives alone and owns an apartment in a luxury residential complex. Five friends visited her, four men and one woman. They just cooked and talked quietly.
An elderly resident knocked on her door and said bachelors were not allowed. He asked to meet the owner. When she told him she was the owner, he got angry.
Soon four to five more “uncles” arrived and accused them of drinking and smoking weed. They even entered her living room without permission.
They told her to vacate the apartment the next day. Her male friends pushed them out. One of them, who tried to “inspect” the apartment, was slapped for trespassing.
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They called the police. The police came and asked to see her property documents. However, she refused to show the documents because there was no interference and no legal reason to enter.
Her camera in the living room recorded everything. Because she and her friends are studying law, the police “didn’t try to do anything arbitrary or questionable.”
The uncles still insisted that they were board members of the company and “knew all the residents”. She replied that apparently not. She also knew the builder of the company, a friend of her father. Their scare tactics were therefore unsuccessful.
The next morning, she sent a legal notice demanding the removal of all board members involved. She also issued individual notices for trespassing, harassment and assault. She said she plans to file civil lawsuits.
“In my case, I own the apartment – but imagine how much worse it is for bachelors living in other cities on rent who don’t have the means, legal knowledge or power to fight back. This kind of moral policing and harassment is a serious problem,” she wrote.
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Later, the woman posted a separate thread on Reddit to explain what happened after she sent the legal notice. The builder called her directly and asked for details.
He came to her flat with the chairman of the company to look at the CCTV footage and understand the incident. Both assured her of their full support. The chairman then called an emergency meeting in the evening of the same day.
During the meeting, the video was shown to all members present. The men’s behavior was immediately condemned. All those involved were removed from their positions on the company’s board of directors. Each of them was fined ₹20,000 for breaking social rules.
The chairman said this was a serious security failure at one of the most respected companies in the city. A written apology was provided to her and the other members. She later found out that most of these men didn’t even live on her block.
“I even found out that 3 of them don’t live in my block and the remaining 2 live in my block but 12 floors below mine. I don’t know what on earth their problems are with me,” wrote a woman from Bengaluru.
She was then visited by many families from her building. Their support was kind and unexpected.
“That was really very sweet. I didn’t expect that,” she wrote.
The Bangalore woman then consulted “one of the best lawyers in town” to understand her decisions. He explained that a criminal trial would drag on for years with very little punishment. A civil lawsuit would be faster and more efficient.
He said money would be the only thing these men would really fear. So she filed a civil suit for defamation, trespass, assault, battery, stalking, harassment and invasion of privacy. The claim was for ₹62 million.
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Her lawyer told her it was unlikely she would get the full amount. But even a fraction hits hard. She also asked for a permanent injunction preventing them from having any further contact with her.
The lawsuit was filed the next morning. Then the wives of the two men come to ask her to drop the case.
“Beta, it’s okay, it won’t happen again. You got what you wanted. They were removed from their positions and fined. Please drop the case and don’t take it personally,” they told the woman.
She refused. Another couple tried to use the old man’s illness as an excuse. She firmly told them that it was their responsibility to control him.
‘I’m a tough girl’
“This made me realize something deeply disturbing. These are not the men my father taught me about. Instead of taking responsibility, they hide behind their son and ‘wives’ pallu’ to gain sympathy,” she wrote.
“They don’t have the guts to come directly to me and apologize. A real man takes responsibility for his actions,” she wrote.
“I’m a tough girl. I don’t have many insecurities and I don’t let people bring me down. But that’s not true for everyone. Young boys and girls come from small towns and villages to big cities and metro cities to study and live independently. Not everyone has strong backing or support,” she added.
The Reddit post was shared on Twitter (now X) and instantly went viral, garnering nearly 8K views.
“He is the hero Bangalore deserves,” the poster wrote.
